I’m going to be fucking sick
“if these women were behaving in a ladylike way”-
Also, apparently if I dress how I want (for example, a short dress) I’m OBVIOUSLY asking for a man to touch me in ways I don’t want to be touched, or asking to be raped
Okay the first one I was like “ok, I really don’t agree, but it’s at least not terrible” BUT THE SECOND ONE. DEAR GOD THE SECOND ONE. I WILL CHOKE SOMEBODY
Yes. Because it is entirely the woman’s fault. No. That argument just. Why.
The second point presumes that men cannot control themselves, and I think it’s very obvious men can. Being one, I can tell you I have a heavy amount of control over what I do. I’m sorry, but that argument presumes that a man is just a primal beast that has to bone anything that moves or acts in a manner cohesive with what this person presumes is unladylike.
Secondly, since when does clothing and how you wear it instantly mean “Ohmahgawd I want you to touch me all over! I’m just begging to be boned~!” I find that argument entirely stupid. So if I’m wearing a utility belt and overalls, it means I really want to go around fixing your house? Does it mean that if I wear a trenchcoat, I’m going to want to shoot up your schools?
Here. Just. Here. Have some studies. I’ll even link them for you.
Utah State University Sexual Assault and Anti Violence Information Myth: Rape victims provoke the attach by wearing provocative clothing - A Federal Commission on Crime of Violence Study found that only 4.4% of all reported rapes involved provocative behavior on the part of the victim. In murder cases 22% involved such behavior (as simple as a glance). - Most convicted rapists do not remember what their victims were wearing. - Victims range in age from days old to those in their nineties, hardly provocative dressers. Utah State University http://www.usu.edu/saavi/pdf/myths_facts.pdf
Myth: Victims provoke sexual assaults when they dress provocatively or act in a promiscuous manner. Fact: Rape and sexual assault are crimes of violence and control that stem from a person's determination to exercise power over another. Neither provocative dress nor promiscuous behavior are invitations for unwanted sexual activity. Forcing someone to engage in non-consensual sexual activity is sexual assault, regardless of the way that person dresses or acts.? Sonoma State University: Women's Resource Center
MYTH: Provocative dress can cause a rape. FACT: Victims are chosen because of their vulnerability, not because they are sexually provocative. Wichita State University http://webs.wichita.edu/?u=police&p=/sexual_assault/
Just. Seriously guys. I understand you live in a world where you think you can tell what a person is like by the way they dress, but I can guarantee that that view is faulty, to put it at best. A human being is actually a complex creature with layers upon layers of personality. By stereotyping them, I’m sure it makes your life that much simpler, but it’s never the truth. Ever.
Look. The fact that you, strange tumblr, exist makes me angry. You don’t use logic. You’re using ethos, and I hope you are embarrassed. I just found you some really quick studies you could have found if you chose to open your eyes and search with google. It was really easy. You don’t have an excuse.
Rape happens because the other person thinks they can overpower his victim. It’s not a question of provocative clothing. It’s the fact that there are scumbag people out there that have no standing moral code apart from “Might makes right.”
I doubt you will see this tumblr person, but I respectfully beg you to reconsider your points or become educated in the shit you spew.
Thank you for your time.